Have you ever had someone so close to you in your life, that whatever they did to hurt you, you simply forgave them?
Now, this forgiveness does not necessarily happen because of your devotion as a Christian, No. It is mostly because they have that uncanny control over you. Sometimes they know it. Other times they don’t. Sometimes they use it to their advantage, often they do not know how.
You know what that is? I call it love. Now, I shall not even attempt to define this ever so broad subject but I have seen components of it…and lived through a couple of them.
The thing about love is that no matter how ‘soon’ we want it to die out, especially after a terrible experience..it stays close by..chilling in your heart *super glued even*. It is the reason women stay in abusive relationships when the world can’t seem to understand.( This is not to say I condone it. I simply believe it is so easy for ‘us’ outsiders to judge such women yet they probably have their reasons)
It is love that keeps us with our ever jealous,annoying-gossipy friends…because deep down we know there is a reason we bonded in the first place(Not to say you should keep negative people in your life in the name of love)
It is still love that makes exes hook up even if at the back of their minds they know things may go downhill as they did before…but you can’t just up and erase past love..If it is so easy to ‘wash it away,’ can’t have been that strong to start with, no?
Now to a more informed perspective;
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
I know for a fact I have been guilty of breaking some of these rules…but you can’t blame me..how do I trust someone with all these bu 16 year olds looking like I should be looking? Hot, sexy, sultry (insert necessary synonyms) yet they are in school and I am..well..erm, a working class woman? Do I sound defensive? Okay, I have stopped. What was I saying? Yes, I am a work in progress. *watch this space*
Brings me to a close relative of love…pain. The irony, huh? Pain can’t be wished away. Even if you disappear into Alaska, you may see a leaf that reminds you of person X who broke your heart..so I suggest you stay put and deal from here. I am pretty sure this heat shall melt some of that love:) wait, is it meant to be a sad smiley? 😦
Pain takes time..sometimes it leaves scars so you will remember but you can choose to cover this scar up with new beauty spots.. Memories, not diamonds are forever..Is there surgery to edit your memory..meds…something?anything? I think there is a reason they remain vivid…or not.
Memories come in their own packages.
They itch, scratch, walk in unannounced and constantly remind you of what was..Unable to get rid of them, you are stuck with a pigment of the past..sometimes they are great..others, not so much…but it is from falling down that we learn to get back up..yaay! There is hope 🙂
That said, I believe love is a beautiful thing and once you have given it your best shot,it should never be regretted no matter how badly it ends..
To experience loss can be a differently wrapped gift too, a reminder of what can be and a lesson for the beautiful opportunities that lie ahead 😉